I Still Do

November 25, 2010

While I was away

When I began writing my blog, I was warned that I shouldn’t start it unless I was committed to writing on a regular basis.  You can see where that went.  I’ve taken a seven month sabbatical—time does go by fast when you’re having fun.

Since my last blog entry, I’ve given speeches about Alzheimer’s and caregiving in Montreal; Greenwich, CT.; Baltimore; San Francisco; Dublin; Berlin; Luxembourg and Paris.   My photographs from I Still Do have  recently been on exhibition in Berlin and Paris and are currently in museum shows in San Diego (MoPA) and Daytona Beach, Florida (SMP.)    It’s clear to me that people around the world want to understand the personal stories behind the Alzheimer’s statistics—and art is a way for them to connect very personally and very viscerally with a disease that is often still hidden.   Seeing how people bond with Ed through my photographs of him, and by extension connect with others with AD, is something I find very rewarding and touching.  For me, photographing Ed has enabled me to give shape to something that’s shapeless and a voice to something that’s been silent.  It’s been a way for me to confront Alzheimer’s using the only weapons I have.

Ed, by being my model, my muse, my husband, my best friend—and, always, my cheerleader—has given me a very great gift.  He’s also touched thousands of people whom he’ll never know.

Since we’re in the season of Thanksgiving, I will add that Ed and I are doing well even though his Alzheimer’s has progressed. Our conversations are less complex and wide-ranging, but we still understand each other.   We go for walks in the facility in which he resides or we sit in the sun holding hands.   Last week, Ed had forgotten who I am and that we’re married—what he told me, though, is that I’m his best friend.  That, and dinner with my family, make this a very good Thanksgiving.

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5 Comments »

  1. Thank you for posting again. Even though I do not know you, I think about you and Ed often.

    Comment by Sandra — November 30, 2010 @ 6:38 pm

  2. I miss your updates about Ed.

    We lost Dad on May 8 this year. . . we buried him the day before his 78th birthday. No more sorrow, but no more silly, goofy, sweet Dad. . .

    Comment by Sandra — June 26, 2011 @ 8:39 pm

    • I love the way you describe your father, Sandra; silly, goofy and sweet are wonderful ways to remember the dad you love.

      I appreciate our comments about my updatesI wish I could could write regularly on my blog, but I don’t seem to be able to focus on it while doing everything else on my very long To Do list. Ed has declined, but also works hard on staying engaged and he does have lucid and enjoyable times. I continue to advocate and exhibit my work around the world, and there will be an exhibition of my photographs at the Capital rotunda in November. I may also have a new project coming up and should know about that soon.

      Thank you for staying in touch.

      With my condolences and best wishes.

      Judith Judith Fox http://www.judithfox.com Photographer and Author of “I Still Do: Loving and Living with Alzheimer’s” http://bit.ly/aUTxOz http://bit.ly/guardianuk http://bit.ly/BBCslideshow http://bit.ly/ABCtelevisioninterview Amazon: http://bit.ly/dYYb3

      Comment by Judith Fox — July 3, 2011 @ 2:20 pm

      • I still think about you and Ed, worry about your sorrow and how you are adjusting to the shifts that you are no doubt experiencing in your life. I am working on the book about my Dad’s journey (and therefore, ours). I did my first public reading last month. One of the hardest things I have ever done. We miss him terribly, but we don’t really mourn him–if that makes any sense.

        Congratulations about your photograph exhibit at the Rotunda! What a coup! How did it go? I’m so very happy for you! I hope you never forget to focus on you.

        I wish you the best, Judith, and thank you for your kind words.

        Comment by Sandrandra — December 5, 2011 @ 5:40 pm

  3. I have passed on to you the Liebster Blog Award. You can see what that means on my new website about post Alzheimer’s healing (I’m doing a triathlon)! :-)

    It’s been almost a year since we lost Dad (http://yakkergirl.wordpress.com). I miss him every day. I think of you often and miss your writing/musings. I wish you well, I wish you well.

    Comment by Sandra — March 27, 2012 @ 10:24 am


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